Three Critical Pieces of Advice for Anyone Going Through a Divorce.


1. Don’t Be Your Own Lawyer.
In the long run, trying to save a few bucks could cost you more than just money. Why?

  • First, some things handled during the legal process can’t be modified, so if you get it wrong, you are stuck with it.
  • Second, a poorly drafted pleading can and will be used against you in court, preventing you from getting the things that are most important to you.
  • Third, it is far more expensive to modify a poorly written child custody, visitation, or property settlement agreement than it is to get it right the first time. The money you try to save in the beginning probably won’t cover the cost of fixing the mistakes you are likely to make while trying to do it on your own.

2. Don’t Discuss the Advice or Strategy You Received From Your Lawyer With Others.
Discussing things with others destroys the attorney-client privilege. This permits your Ex’s attorney to force your family and friends to testify in court about what you and your attorney said to each other, something that will probably work against you.

3. Don’t Do Anything In Public You Aren’t Prepared To Explain In Court.
Everyone has a cell phone with a camera in it, and it’s not unusual for people to take pictures when they are out in public and post them on social media. Your photo could be taken by anyone, the person sitting at a nearby table, someone who may not even in your group. If you get your picture taken while doing something you don’t want your soon-to-be Ex to know about, there’s a good chance they will find it and use it against you. When in public, behave like your soon-to-be Ex is watching.